Ronda Armstrong
November 28, 2014
Ronda Mae Parks Armstrong, 63, died peacefully on November 28, 2014, at Iowa Methodist Hospital. Her body was donated to Mayo Clinic, Rochester, MN, for research regarding the Carney Triad, a rare tumor condition of which she was the first patient diagnosed in 1976. Lifelong medical issues did not stop her from living fully.
She was born in Emporia, KS, the daughter of Wesley and Marybelle Parks. She graduated from Emporia High School, Emporia State University, and earned her Masters in School Social Work (MSW) from the University of Kansas School of Social Welfare. She moved to Iowa in 1975, first living in Carroll, IA and then moving to Des Moines in 1978. She worked for Heartland Education Agency for 32 years, one of the first school social workers to serve central Iowa and a leader in her field, advocating for young children with special needs. She believed in using strengths and resources to build solutions, helping many to do so. After retirement from school social work, she worked part time for Central Rehabilitation until 2014.
She also turned to another passion, writing. Her inspirational stories appear in many publications, including Chicken Soup for the Soul books. She also wrote meditations with a writing team for the Bridge, a downtown Des Moines organization. She belonged to Story Circle Network, Writing it Real and participated in WomensMemoirs.com.
She and Bill, her husband of thirty-three years, adopted “Dancing Through Life” as their motto. They danced often at Lake Robbins Ballroom and participated actively in several community ballroom dance groups: Castle Club and Dance Club 76 in Des Moines, and Red Friars in Ames. They served on the committee for the Castle Club’s 100th anniversary gala in 2013 and were featured in the November 2013 issue of dsm magazine for their passion for dancing.
Ronda will be remembered for her optimism and positive spirit, especially her caring and compassion, her faith and fortitude, her grace and generosity. She valued keeping in touch with family and friends. She loved writing and receiving letters and sending cards. She enjoyed author events and eating at neighborhood restaurants. She supported activities related to reading and writing, health and wellness, and spiritual growth. When not pursuing other passions, she was curled up with a good book and a cat purring on her lap.
A lifelong Methodist, she had served in many leadership capacities at Des Moines First United Methodist Church where she met and married Bill. Recently, she greeted before worship and prayed for the needs of others.
She was a lifetime member of American Association of University Women and a past Des Moines branch president. She belonged to National Association of Social Workers and formerly to Iowa School Social Workers Association, holding a variety of leadership positions. She received the first Iowa School Social Worker of the Year award in 1981.
Ronda is survived by her loving husband, Bill, and their devoted feline companions, Tiffy and Teddy; her sister, Margaret Herrick, Scottsdale, AZ; her sister-in-law, Barbara Webster of Mission Viejo, CA; and many special cousins and friends.
She and her family are grateful to all who provided medical care for her over the years and to the many persons who blessed her with love, laughter, and encouragement.
To honor her joyful spirit, please share a smile, a hug, a story, an act of kindness. Memorial contributions may be made in her name to the Des Moines First United Methodist Church or any local charity related to her interests.
Visitation will be held at Hamilton’s near Highland Memory Gardens Funeral Home, 121 N.W. 60th Avenue, Des Moines on Saturday, December 13, 2014, from 2 to 5 p.m. Celebration of Life, followed by a luncheon, will take place at 2 p.m. on Sunday, December 14, 2014, at First United Methodist Church, 1001 Pleasant Street, Des Moines, IA. 50309.
Condolences may be expressed at:
www.HamiltonsFuneralHome.com
Emma
12/14/2014
Ronda was a bright spot in an otherwise difficult time for me this year with my GIST diagnosis. I knew her only through our email support list, but it was so clear that her positivity and love for life shined through even on a computer screen. She will be greatly missed on our GIST email chain. Thank you for all your kindness, Ronda. Condolences to your family.
Phyllis Gay
12/12/2014
Ronda was such an inspiration to me! She wrote to me online on our support group and privately via email often to uplift me and give me support with my now 21 year old daughter who also has all 3 components of carney triad. Dr. Carney spoke so highly of Ronda from the beginning of all phone conferences with him even back in 2004 with our initial diagnosis. I send my prayers for peace as your whole family goes through this next step in life without Ronda here on earth with you.
She was such a giving and delightful woman to know via "cyber space" and I only wish I could have had the pleasure to meet her in person!
I will miss her uplifting contagious spirit!
Marybeth D'Amico
12/08/2014
I didn't know Rhonda for long, but I experienced her warm personality as a member of the pediatric GIST email list we were both on. She had such a great spirit about her in spite of her difficulties which serves as a continued inspiration to the rest of us diagnosed with this disease. I'm very sorry for your loss, and wanted to express to you what an impact she had on some others who had never even met her in person.
Irene
12/08/2014
My condolences to Rhonda's family. I met her on the pediatric GIST list. She was so friendly and supportive. It is a loss to us all that she is no longer with us.
God bless to her family and know that she was very much appreciated.
Cathy Freeman
12/08/2014
Ronda was the light, the leader, an inspiration and a hope on our small cancer support site with the few others dealing with this rare cancer called Carney Triad. We are so overwhelmed with Ronda's generous donation to research for "the kids" who are suffering with tumors and don't have a current cure. Ronda was one of our leaders of support . .. Always pitching in a kind word or comforting analogy. She will be missed.
Susan Koons
12/05/2014
Ronda was such a special person. So kind and so full of life. She was extremely talented. She will be missed by so many.
Teresa Baustian
12/05/2014
Bill, I'm so sorry to learn of Ronda's passing. The joyful life that you had together, though, is a treasure--a truly wonderful thing.
and Shirley Shaw
12/04/2014
I knew the last time we saw you, Bill, and Ronda at Lake Robbins that she was not quite herself. How sad we were to hear of her passing. You two shared so many joys and difficulties. We always admired how resilient you were. We took inspiration from the grace you displayed as you dealt with the serious health issues that confronted you,..
God bless you.. You willbe in our prayers.
Shirley and Ken Shaw
Pamela and Michael Tambornino
12/04/2014
It was a gift to have known Ronda and you for over 30 years. Bill, we are so sad to hear of her passing, but know she was ready for heaven. We think of her now as watching over all of her friends and family from the happiest of places.
Bonnie and Don Orris
12/04/2014
Bill, We are so very sad to hear of Rhonda's passing. It was so serendipity to meet you both at the Arthur Murray dance classes in 1996 then to rediscover you again at Lake Robbins. Our paths crossed many times as you Danced through Life. I will remember Rhonda's smile and grace.
Pat Koroch
12/03/2014
Bill I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your lovely wife Ronda. I know how much you Loved her and what a Wonderful life the two of you shared. Please know I'm thinking of you during this difficult time. Hoping the memories you shared together help comfort you and give you peace.
Sandy Anderson
12/02/2014
I have such fond memories of the years I worked with Ronda at Heartland. She was a delightful co-worker, and I know she was a wonderful resource to families whom she helped. She was such a gentle woman - so caring and compassionate, and I consider it a privilege to know her.
Lyn J Wilkinson
12/02/2014
We are so sorry. All of your friends here at Lake Robbins send their deepest sympathy.
It was always good to see you at the dances. You danced so well.
Rhonda was always so nice in sending notes & Thank you's. I always appreciated them. May God be with you.
Karen Johnson
12/01/2014
Ronda was one of the sweetest, kindest souls I've ever known. I worked with her at Heartland AEA and always looked forward to talking with her. Prayers for your family.
Dann Stevens
12/01/2014
Ronda was a person that lived her life with the compassion and love that all of us Christians aspire. I am truly blessed to have known her and call her a friend. My thoughts and prayers are with Bill and the rest of her family.